bambie's Datingish

How deep is your love?

Mon, 15 Mar 2010 12:13:30 GMT

Ive met alot of couples, and quite honestly ive known some of their worries. Yes because most of the couples i know are my friends and among friends. It interests me enough that as I grow deeper into my own relationship, So as the people around me. As another year adds more memories to each partners so as the trouble or problem that everyone experiences. It isnt petty fights anymore, but more serious issues. And some of the serious issues that brought to my attention is: when someone in a relationship or both parties in a relationship tends to get to comfortable with each other that the idea of privacy is no longer, should i say "practiced". Well, in the early days of courting we do find it sweet to find the love of our life "-as-of-the-moment" isnt quite afraid to show what he/she really is.
     The trouble with having no privacy between a relationship is that there is no more mystery or thrill, I do admit that that mystery or thrill lures us to our SO, and when the time comes that its too normal, ughhh... it gets boring. And when it gets boring, whats the point?
    The second and most serious is, when either one of the people involved in a relationship is too much dependent on the other one financially. Well ofcourse it wouldnt be a problem if you are earning enough for both of you. But isnt it a deal breaker? I mean, yeah you promised to be right there beside your SO through thick and thin but how do you draw the line between THICK and THIN? how THICK is that love you are trying to understand and see for yourself to have?
     Does it only goes that when you love somebody too much that you are soooo much willing to be the rock that supports the foundation? My only idea is, when we grow with somebody, the responsibilities that each of us will have also grows. The continuity of a relationship doesnt grow merely on love, or too much love but the selfless and undying understanding that you can never exist as a whole when you decided to part ways. For I do believe that in a longterm relationship, when the other person decided to extract himself from a relationship just because enough is enough he will surely live but the idea that he left because the going gets tough stains his ability to handle one.

hopes up

Sun, 07 Mar 2010 09:12:26 GMT

Im a filipino, and Im very proud of that not only because of the values that has been instilled to me not only by my parents but also the culture that surrounds me. As our generation changes, I began to embrace growth by understanding different persona or identities or beliefs, to which it may create a bad or good image to the person-i wont care, but still I understand no matter what is-aside from whats not. Yes, our country is among the list of one of the most corrupt government in the world, Im not very proud of that, but as a filipino I became more resilient and thought myself to be more and more understanding. I pity those unfortunate and i admire those who where there, atop. But still as the exchange rate constantly changes or as the oil price increases it also increases our poverty rate. But as joyful as filipinos can be, we began to find ways inorder to survive our every day lives, and maybe the saying that ONE DAY AT A TIME has become the anthem for those who were struggling.
Election is coming in, and political candidates and appeals are mushrooming. Its been said in many radio stations, tV stations the slogan "ako mismo" which explains that, "The start begins with me, my vote will be the change that this country is needed." Well its nice, and very optimistic isnt it? And i do believe in it; but the fact that the masses is looking for a president that will change the world, I can say we can FIND that president. But the idea that Our country will be free from that list of the most corrupt countries then, I dont know. the truth is I believe that corruption is there and is like a parasite that infects the minds of the voting public that has been used by electoral candidates that they will eliminate corruption if given the chance to serve; but i for one is accepting the fact that every president that are seated in to presidency has experienced taking something from the country. Theres just these people who hasn't been caught- who were just too smart to hide it and some who maybe are too forgetful to hide their tracks.

But having this idea and understanding what is there, I begin to pray that maybe someday we can find a president who is soooo talented that he can be sooo corrupt-- BUT--he/she will make, every filipino would have the chance to work in their own country and serve their fellow countrymen so a family member would not be away for Christmas,valentines, mothers day, fathers day, women month, men month, and yes, family day- and the salaries would have to be able to support a family-even the extended family(lol) , that every filipino has the chance to enhance their own abilities and talents so that our country will be one of the holders of medals/trophy in every games that we are into(ASEAN GAMES; international games), that every filipino has the chance to experience good medical services; that a good hospital would be accessible to the public mostly those who cant afford to even pay their transportation to the hospital, that every filipino would be molded to a degree of discipline so that everyone would be respected as what every one deserves to have and education is the anwer. And always will be. I hope that the level of education from the top schools in the country will be also accessible to those children in public schools. That bridges and roads as well as electricity and water would be done, so that children who were eager to go to school but before that has to walk for how many kilometers and climb mountains just to reach their destination.

Wishful. but as a citizen, i want what is best and not just good enough for my countrymen.
i hope you are too,.. and some of us will coincide to the idea that all of us want something.

please pray

Wed, 20 Jan 2010 12:13:24 GMT

Its hard to begin a story or a sentence saying that you are ok, when you know that you have to believe in yourself and to know that you must and have to do something even if the butterflies in your stomach turns into dragons.
I always have been a positive thinker, i always think ahead and know that things will definitely be good as what i have envisioned it. I guess this idea became a defense or an avoidance of fear. As the youngest child in the family, it was mixed with tough reality and sweet pleasure. You got to have what you wanted when you ask it, and tough because people always and will continually think of you as the baby even if you are taller now. But i dont want disappointing my family, so i learned to portray this discreet and shy character when infront of them. They have this dream of success on whatever im in to. but i guess i couldnt please them much longer. Theres this exam that i have to take- again.. for the 2nd time...
My parents most especially my mom, wants the best of me, i know. and she wants me to pass, i also wanted to, who doesnt.. but im taking the pharmacist licensure exam for heavens sake, and it doesnt apply that i only study letters but i have to study the actions and toxicity of drugs and how to handle them when to give them and how to give them, and people, and economics, and law concerning about it. Its hard. I know passing it would give them pride, and i wanted to give them that. But its hard. Most especially when most of my fellow examiners shares their parents thoughts about it. Their parents, are ok, to the point that their not expecting much. their parents, gives them moral suypport that whatever happens there would always be another time, that it will never be the end of them.
But my story, they just stares at me after what ive told them what my mom expects me to do. I will do everything to pass this soo to be exam. But with added pressure. And thats hard. So hard.
I tell myself you can do it, but on the back and back of that thought is fear of displeasing those people who were very much important to me...
I love my mom, dont get me wrong but... ughhhh... this is hard...

please do pray for me... this would be my 2nd time of having this exam.. i hope ill pass...
im thankful for all of your prayers,...please...do.. ive guessed that God would be definitely hear my hopes when there will be tons of people praying... :D

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Wed, 20 Jan 2010 12:13:07 GMT

with my girl-friends

Mon, 11 Jan 2010 10:09:37 GMT

Me and my friends find time to close the gap between us, right now some of them are busy with their works, and even families of their own that we seldom see each other. But when we do make up, we talk almost about everything even share about everything, throws question about everything. Imagine 5-8 girls in a room, with all the shouts and giggles and tears. lol. We share almost everything... We even talks about shampoos we are using!!! lol...

That...

One day my SO asks me if we do happen to share all about our deeds with our SO, and what it is all about. I was shocked not because im frightened of what he's reactions maybe but shocked because it never occurred to me that he will think about that stuffs. Like When girl do meet, and talks etc... etc.. I was even avoiding to look him in the eye and say OFCOURSE NOT.Theres discretion involved in those meeting...(ofcourse i know he knows better)... Lol... ofcourse i dont say much, but then again... THEIR my friends they kNOW me much!!! lol...

Im beginning to wonder if, do guys also tell their friends about their SO when they catch up..or they would just talk about cars, basketball, boxing stuffs, and BLOOD!!! grrrr...

Be happy

Mon, 11 Jan 2010 05:05:20 GMT

Ive read a post about second guessing about lets say everything, and yes ive also heard some people of second guessing and how it makes their relationship with others go mad. Then i began to remember that there is a book that states that all things happens for what we think it will happen. If we think badly, then that certain negative outcome will always come to us. The law of attraction, i know some of us have read about it have come to realize that all things are what we really think will happen. There say " feel and behave as if the object is on its way"
... but there are still some things that stops us from doing that.. and that is doubt.. and the fear of failure to once again try and do things differently thime. We can always say, be positive, but the process of positive thinking is hard, that we again fail to consider the little things around us, unknowing the little things that attaches to meet our goals..
I think we must accept the idea that when wanting something there are only two results, failing and winning. So we must do everything to have the latter and that is to enjoy what we are doing. We may have failed but atleast we have learned something and enjoyed what we are doing.

A letter: u know who you are

Thu, 07 Jan 2010 14:02:39 GMT

Though my thoughts have been occupied with uncertainty. I still survived and gripped at the last straw of faith. I've question life and its meaning, and yes i admit. I questioned your grace. I pitied myself and wonder of the most fatal sin that i have committed but as hours went by i never find what i sought. And then again i questioned life itself, its unfairness to those who are believing. Believing that life would go on smoothly when you trust, but i believed wrong.

Again, though as hard as it could be, i took a step toward another day, and it was passing, until ive seen some people who has been, lets say, shares another grief differently, and again im beginning to compare my grief and theirs. I knew more than comparing my life to others but as of this moment, thats the only way that stills my sanity. I continued to believe something so that i will have the urge to continue that another step. Each person that i knew gave me another reason to pull back my self, each stories ive learned makes me see my self alot better, Each death i've learned makes me believe again that life just dont take away life for no reason. but you know what, in your greatness youve shared me this people who has been struggling but still chooses to survive. So i felt small and selfish and ungrateful. But most of all you gave me my life back and showed me what i am suppose to be. That stronng.

i know that you know about this but, i ask you to add days to the womans life that you introduced me. She is a cancer victim and on her stage 4, and i knew you knew her well. She was that first person to open my aching heart, she was the one to show me that what i have encountered is less than what she had. She talking to me in a way that i knew you used her to talk to me, to make me stand again and understand. I never thanked her, for i was crying my heart out, words seems impossible. thank her for what she did, for what she said. but im praying and asking you to give happiness in her short life. and to soothe every aching part in her body.

And now im counting my blessings and trying to smile at my griefs.

(Get a strike with a fuzzy decorative dice)dont mind this

which is which

Fri, 11 Dec 2009 12:19:45 GMT

I'm on my way of recovery and, needless to say it was hard. But then as my weakness get the whole of me, i still believed on something that is all i can think is there. And that is my faith in God,i felt that during those times something structured and solid is through Him and with Him. There could never be a perfect relationship even between families, politics and even nations, lets accept that, that's why im beginning to doubt those books and even theories on How to make a relationship work or perfect in that matter. And as i begin to insert this thought in a conversation people then again questions so i just smiled and then again change the topic. i would again then assume that there optimists, pessimists, and even realists in terms of relationships. These might be people who still continues to believe that love conquers all, i say it wont. During sometime in a relationship there would be trials and the only thing that might make you hold on is not love but loyalty or connection or belief that all problems would be answered. But then again a question would be raised. What is love? and how far is a person willing to go to when in love???

The optimists are those never been, the pessimists are those who has been and the realists are those who are still weighing what to be a pessimist or an optimist; so the realists are the intermidiate.

So i would have to ask which of the three sides are you now?

THERE'S NO PERFECT MAN

Wed, 04 Nov 2009 06:39:08 GMT

We decided living, and after what had happened living seems to be the only option and that was hard. Well, as of this moment i wont be talking about living, for there's no much to tell about life after we lost our child. Yeah, we decided living and first step is to see the bright side. What i've learned from that experience has changed my views towards people and towards life and towards my faith.

Ive questioned or asked God but still I never hated him.
And it was the time that ive thought things.

Since childhood, I learned to appreciate love stories, Ive learned and dreamt of my dream wedding, the man of my dreams, my dream family but first ive to find my perfect man. I have so many criterias or standards, but again, some in my list wasn't there. In my PERFECT MAN list was, 1. tall 2. sports minded 3. good sense of humor 4. has a great job 5. good looking 6. neat 7. can carry conversations 8. can get along with my friends 9. whos not demanding 10.. and a lot more. Imagine.. i got a lot more! Girls has this imprinted on their minds, or some girls does and im one of them

And again, i realized that none too much of that list is needed in order for you to find your perfect man.It didn't reach 6 or 7 to find him. I found him the day i was laying in the ultrasound room holding my hand so tight when the doctor tells us that we lost our child. I found him, controlling his tears when im powerless of mine. I found him standing amidst our weakest moment, I found him comforting me when I knew he needs comforting too. With all that imperfections, I found him. Staring at me and holding on when i saw no reason to continue what we had. He might boss around, demands or werent that extra sweet but he made me fall inlove with him again.

So what we need is not a list, we need is we should be ready to take risks and chances to what we think is hopeless, a reason is always behind in every dream.We must not try to change a man for what he is not, so that they can fit in our every standard, i could say that let him be the man who he wanted to be and grow with him.

people are people

Fri, 02 Jan 2009 01:55:30 GMT

One of the doctors' who were instructing us on our early years in college said that "we must learn how to connect our lessons learned in other subject with the lessons that we have now." its just that way it works she added.
Thinking about it, i knew that she is telling us and showing us what was beyond.

As this is a blog site where love is mostly the subject. Im connecting those words that she said with what ive learned about people in particular. you might object but this is what i think. and this is my blog so i dont care.
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In a relationship ive learned that you can never completely please your partner let alone the other people surrounding you. and because of this arguments arises and fights and misunderstandings. Your partner or you might want to work it out first and second and third, but on the latter one of you will surely want out.

A love story might not be a happy ending, to the ones who had just experience being inlove and failed might find that very hard, and the realization of fairy tales only exist on walt disneys books or movies. To those who have failed might get afraid to try again, some may hate their EX bf/gf, some may even try to get them back, some might try again and some on my opinion, there are some who were courageous enough to try again. And im happy for them.

That boys/men who were just courting will say even the impossible just to get you, will show you, give you attention that girls might fall for and when they started dating there goes the true color. Some men, also knows how to love and they are the one who just might be the least you have expected they were noisy and rude or silent. That you just have also to invest time to get to know a real jerk better and decide that he is not a jerk after all.

In failed relationships, a bottle of beer comes in handy, party seems to be unscheduled jumping from one party to the other. One might vomit their lungs out and do crazy things, one might find a rebound but in the end of the day most likely these people might find themselves crying and thinking when did the tears fell.

Conclusion is expected, like i will never love again, or i will never hurt again, but find themselves falling in love again after a month, or a year. . .

Hurting because of love is ok, why do we hate it? why do some people put the blame on other people for their mistakes in their relationship? and why are some people have doubts about love just because other people are not successful in their love life? Connecting our experiences will surely help. hurting this time might help us later